How many questions are in this quiz?

This quiz has 124 questions that explore how you pace intimacy and commitment.

Is there a timer or time limit?

No—there’s no timer. Every question has 4 options, so you can take your time and reflect.

Can I choose fewer than 124 questions?

Yes. You can select your preferred question count before you start, including shorter runs than the full 124.

How do difficulty settings work for this quiz?

Difficulty changes how nuanced the scenarios are. Mixed includes a balance of straightforward and more reflective questions.

What will I actually learn from my results?

You’ll see patterns in how quickly you prefer emotional closeness, physical intimacy, and exclusivity, plus where misunderstandings often happen.

How you pace intimacy and commitment Quiz

About this quiz

What this quiz helps you notice

Some people move quickly toward exclusivity while others prefer a slower build—neither is “right,” but mismatches can create pressure or confusion. This quiz helps you identify your default pacing for intimacy and commitment, plus what tends to speed you up or slow you down.

Each question uses a 4-option multiple-choice format with no timer, so you can answer thoughtfully rather than react fast. You can also choose your question count and difficulty before starting, making it easy to do a quick check-in or a deeper dive.

Skills you’ll practice

Telling the difference between attraction, attachment, and commitment
Setting pace-related boundaries without sounding rejecting
Reading “green flags” and “yellow flags” in early dating conversations
Recognizing when you’re accelerating to reduce anxiety or slowing down to avoid vulnerability
Matching expectations around exclusivity, labels, and physical intimacy

Common pitfalls and how difficulty is balanced

A frequent trap is assuming the other person shares your timeline, which can lead to overcommitting, mixed messages, or feeling rushed. Another is treating pacing as a test (“If they won’t do X by date Y, they don’t care”) instead of a conversation.

Difficulty is mixed on purpose: easier items focus on everyday dating choices, while tougher ones explore nuance like ambiguity, attachment triggers, and conflicting values. If you want more challenge, pick a higher difficulty; if you want a gentler self-check, choose an easier setting or fewer questions.