What makes you feel valued by friends

What this quiz reveals

Some people feel valued through thoughtful messages, others through loyalty, time, or practical help. This quiz helps you identify the signals of care you notice most—and the ones you may be missing.

Each question uses 4 options and there’s no timer, so you can reflect instead of rushing.

Skills you’ll practice

You’ll practice naming your needs, recognizing healthy friendship patterns, and communicating preferences without guilt. Along the way, you’ll also spot which gestures feel nice but don’t actually make you feel secure.

Common pitfalls (and how to avoid them)

It’s easy to answer based on what you “should” want rather than what actually lands for you. Another trap is judging friends by one big moment instead of looking for consistent effort over time.

• Choosing the “ideal friend” option instead of your real preference
• Confusing attention with care (frequency vs. quality)
• Overvaluing grand gestures and overlooking steady support
• Expecting mind-reading instead of clear communication
• Ignoring boundaries and calling it closeness

Difficulty and question settings

Difficulty is mixed on purpose: some prompts are straightforward, while others are more reflective and situational to balance depth with ease. Before you start, choose your question count and difficulty to match your mood—short and light, or longer and more introspective.